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I always feel worthless, and I have low self-esteem. I have no friends, and my grades are average. I want to be an amazing person and get grades that I can be proud of, but I don’t know how to start and keep procrastinating. What should i do?
I’m sorry you’re so depressed and it’s affecting your self-esteem. Unfortunately, good grades and best friends don’t appear out of thin air, but there are things you can do to try and help yourself and motivate yourself.
Help! I try to talk about my problems but everyone says to ‘work hard’
Think about why you procrastinate
Procrastination is not a failure but a way to cope with difficult feelings and negative emotions that certain activities can do. People often procrastinate because they are overwhelmed with tasks and don’t know where to start.
Ask yourself: why do you put off studying or socializing? Maybe because they seem like big goals, and you don’t know how to get started? Are you afraid of falling? Show yourself some self-love; Studies have shown that more self-love can reduce mental stress – a major cause of procrastination.
Instead of feeling bad, you forgive yourself for putting things off – everyone does! Remind yourself of the best ways to accomplish the task at hand, and think about past times when you’ve done something similar and it went well. Put a positive spin on getting the job done instead of thinking about what could go wrong.
People often procrastinate when they are overwhelmed with their work and don’t know where to start. Image: Shutterstock
Promote a healthy lifestyle and routine
Healthy habits create a solid foundation for personal growth and promote self-worth. Take care of yourself to relax your body and mind. This can boost your self-esteem and confidence. Getting enough sleep, eating a balanced diet, exercising regularly and doing things you enjoy will keep you relaxed, healthy and happy.
You can make these habits when making new friends; for example, if you joined a sports team at school, you can be motivated when you meet people you already know you have in common with.
How to learn to stop running from my thoughts?
Set achievable goals
Set simple and clear goals and break down your larger tasks into smaller, more manageable steps. This will make your work smaller and easier.
For example, if you want to improve your English, you can start by reading a few chapters of your book every night or focusing on some topics that you find difficult. get on. This will take less time than trying to check a lot of subjects at once, and you’ll be less likely to procrastinate.
If you break your goals down into smaller, more achievable goals, you’ll be more likely to succeed. Image: Shutterstock
Check your progress
Record regular check-ins to track your progress and remind yourself of what you’ve achieved. For example, you can make a list of all the subjects you have trouble with in English and mark them as you go through them – seeing those specific marks on the board name you will see how much you have learned and increase your confidence. .
Be kind to yourself if things don’t change as quickly as you’d like. Victory does not come quickly! But look at your goals and see if you need to change them – maybe you’re trying to read three chapters of your textbook a night, but two is easier. Don’t be afraid to push back on your goals or get rid of them altogether if you find they aren’t serving you.
I have no motivation in school and I want to quit. What should i do?
Ask for support
Be humble and humble and don’t be afraid to ask for help – not only can you learn things from others to help you in your personal growth, but it can also strengthen relationships and help the building your relationships with others.
Becoming the person you want to be is a journey, so be patient and kind to yourself along the way. Celebrate every small victory and work towards your goals with joy, perseverance and determination.
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The question was answered by psychologists from the Department of Health under Shall We Talk, a mental health initiative launched with the Mental Health Advisory Committee.